Monday, December 19, 2005

The Good and the Bad

This morning as I was checking on one of the websites I frequent I learned that the SC USCIS office is processing I600A's received on 11-15!!! This is great news as ours was received by 11/10 and our fingerprinting was on 12/9. Looks like the 171H may not be a huge holdup after all!

The bad news is that our homestudy has not been completed and sent to them, so no processing will happen until it is. Looks like I am going to have to put on my "follow up" hat and start pestering the social worker!

This weekend was a nice one, we escaped power outages and icy conditions for a weekend in the mountains (where the weather was great). We rented a cabin in Gatlinburg, TN for us and our moms and we really enjoyed ourselves. Our cabin was brand new and the view was spectacular, and everyone was comfortable. We enjoyed the hot tub and the fireplaces, and the Winterfest lights in town. The only part we didn't enjoy were the poorly maintained roads leading up to our cabin. That was pretty scary since the roads were very steep!

We've got less than a week until Christmas and I can't help but feel sad and hopeful at the same time. Sad that our furbaby Katie isn't with us and hopeful that our daughter may be home this time next year. This year we are in limbo, and that will make it hard, but we have faith that good times are ahead. I was at a funeral recently and the minister said that it is ok for us to grieve. God expects it. However, it is not ok to grieve without hope because if you are a Believer, then you know that our separation from other Believers is only temporary. So, that being said, we grieve, but not without hope as we know that those we miss so badly will be waiting for us in Heaven.

We grieve for my father, and for Derek's. We grieve for lost grandparents, for the pregnancies that never happened, and for Katie, who lovingly held our hearts in her paws for 9 years. But, we have hope. And this hope is in the form of our faith in our Heavenly Father and in the form of a little girl who will call us mommy and daddy one day. While my soul cries, my heart sings, because I know that our grief is not the end.

On that note, I will wrap this up. I have passed my mushiness quotient for the day! I hope that everyone has a safe and happy time with their families. We love you all and wish everyone a Merry Christmas.


AL said...

Hi Suzanne and Derek ... I just found your blog today. I'm not done reading it yet, but I wanted to suggest something from a post you made in November.

I lost my step-son a few years ago, and we had him cremated as well. We found little glass vials with a lid. We put some of his ashes in the vials. Then we had a silver casing customed made for each. Mine has a cherub on it. We all wear them as pendants, so my step-son is with us all.

Let me know if you need more clarification of what the heck I'm talking about, my email address is

Ed and Lisa said...

Wow.... this really brought tears to my eyes. And you are so right about the grieving.. I grieve for my dad who I lost three years ago but know that I will see again. I handled my grieving so much differently than the non-believers in my family.. not intentionally mind you. But there really is a huge difference when you know, realy know, in your heart that this time apart is temporary. grieving with hope... I guess that's what we have been doing all this time, I just never had a word for it.

Merry Christmas Suzanne and Derek and hang in there... your little one will be with you soon.

Lisa :)